In a time where the “party” has become more important than the “life after it,” I found myself writing these words after seeing thousands of women react to Jeff Bezos’s wedding photos.
The comments were full of admiration… but behind the screens came personal messages from women struggling with something else: doubt, comparison, and even pain.
Some were unmarried, others were about to marry, and some were in long-term relationships, yet a single visual event was enough to shake something inside.
What does this kind of wedding awaken in women’s hearts?
Such weddings dazzle — but sometimes, they stir something deeper:
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- A feeling that “ my story isn’t enough”
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- Questions about the value of the current relationship
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- Fear of missing out on something “better”
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- Self-blame for past or future choices
The Spark Back Method, which I’ve developed, is rooted in psychology, faith, and therapeutic expertise, doesn’t ignore these reactions. It acknowledges that what shines on the surface can stir our deepest needs and inner questions.
This is not weakness… it’s an invitation for deeper understanding.
It’s important to realize that being affected isn’t a sign of fragility, it’s a window inward.
As a psychologist, I often ask questions like:
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- Am I designing my life because I want it, or because the “world” dictates an ideal image to me?
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- Am I truly living my story, or chasing after someone else’s?
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- Is my self-belief deeply rooted, or fragile in the face of comparison?
How do we hold these feelings?
From my work with women from diverse backgrounds, I find that comparison doesn’t disappear, but it loses its power when met with awareness, and when we rebuild our inner world on solid foundations:
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- Self-knowledge apart from societal expectations
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- Connection to faith, not external guarantees
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- A healthy relationship with love, partnership, and marriage — one that starts from within, not from the wedding party
From a wedding photo to a journey of awareness
It may seem strange to turn a wedding photo into a moment of awareness — but that’s exactly what happens when we pause, and ask:
What did this image awaken in me?
And what do I want to do with it now?
I write these words as an open invitation for dialogue, reflection, and to broaden the way we look at relationships, marriage, and emotional maturity. I share a glimpse of how we work at Spark Back with women who aren’t searching for perfection… but for truth, and a deeper connection with themselves.
If you work in the fields of psychological support, personal development, or social empowerment. I warmly welcome discussions or collaborations on how to apply this model more widely.
By: Dr. Areej Khataybeh – Founder of SparkBack.com